Balancing a healthy ratio of corporate vs your social life has never been an easy task. I do remember that famous question we live to work or we work to live? In the present scenario, it seems that this is actual or better to say its factual question. The biggest stress for today’s youngsters is to balance their corporate life and personal life (our interests).I said, youngsters because the middle-aged are already compromised with either side and with due respects, I don’t wanna comment on the senior citizen because they are having more than we ever have; yeah exactly I am talking about the life experience, patience, and that all-time working golden attitude.
We, youngsters have a common problem when we try to focus on the job and make some money we lack at our social and when we try to have some quality time at social we lack at our job which directly or indirectly smells insecurity in our life and touches our wallet too.
If you are having a job that satisfies your wallet but also meets your interest and your creativity then I am sure you are enjoying your life both ways, sky-high performance at the workstation and that cool attitude at your social. Right? But the common thing is, not everyone has that charm to get that job which meets your interests and satisfies your wallet too. I agree it is a tough thing, but some of us are having such job and that cool and winning attitude.
If you change your attitude and if you are really committed to boost your performance every single day then, of course -you can have a job that would meet your interests and satisfies your wallet. Ah!! There you go, now you are thinking about your work performance at your workstation and about your attitude at your social, great! think it again. If you have that well-paying job and that thrilled personal life then you may skip this post but if not then keep reading.
In Chapter-17 of the ‘Holy Bhagwat Geeta” Lord Sree Krishna explains The Threefold Divisions of Material Existence. “Human attitudes are of three kinds; Sattva (Saintly goodness), Rajas (Relentless activity), or Tamas (Deluded lethargy); they (human) are born of one’s own nature.” Everybody’s faith conforms to his inborn nature. A man is made up of his faith, beliefs, and behaviors. He is what his faith is; either he is following Saintly goodness, Relentless activities or Deluded lethargy. And these attitudes appear everywhere and it affects accordingly.
If your attitude is being lazy at your workstation and dulls at your social then It’s killing your creativity every single moment. You have to stop it as soon as you can and if you do not; then you gonna welcome stress, lower self-esteem and dark negativity everywhere around you. Common help yourself and Change Attitude; Wikipedia says “Attitudes are associated beliefs and behaviors towards some object. They are not stable, and because of the communication and behavior of other people, are subject to change by social influences, as well as by the individual’s motivation.” So, of course, you can change your attitude and bring goodness and happiness to your life.
Here are some key notes which may help you to get a successful corporate and thrilling social life.
1. First off say I’m good to make a change and I’m gonna do whatever it takes me to change my attitudes at work and at my social.
2. Priorities your daily tasks.
You need to prioritize your tasks before you can focus on achieving them. For example, if business development is your job, try to boost your attitude to get more clients engagement by helping them to get their requirements. On the other hand, your boss will start noticing you as benefited clients will thump up to your boss for your name.
You will achieve your goals quicker if you focus on helping clients with their needs. And the same thing follows at your social; Help and give some good experience to your loving ones, friends, and neighbors. The end result will be in your favor; Yup! You guessed it right- you’ll be improving.
3. Cut yourself some slack.
Everyone learns by doing, I can bet; even your CEO or MD so take a deep breath and allow yourself to learn as you go. I mean, give yourself permission to fail, so you can learn going forward. Let me remind you, it works like SEO in Digital Marketing I mean it takes some time to work out in your favor so give it sometimes may be three months or some more. Realize life is a learning curve; therefore avoid guilt and eventual burnout in the past.
4. Choose a Mentor.
When I hear the term ‘Mentor’ suddenly, I imagine Mark Zuckerberg, Steve Jobs, and Mike Markkula. Here is the catch, Mark Zuckerberg was mentored by Steve Jobs. And Steve Jobs was mentored by Mike Markkula, one of Apple’s earliest investors and senior executives. There are no substitutes for experience.
Mentors have experience, networks, and insights beyond yours. Mentors won’t have all the answers but if you request them to help you and boost your experience with theirs, then I’m sure you’ll be able to work much more smoothly and with more confidence than you otherwise would on your own.
5. Take your Ego out of your Life.
If your performance statistics consistently fall short, consider making a change. Don’t take such ownership of what you are doing that you aren’t open-minded to letting go of what is not working. I mean don’t squander your time repeatedly making the same mistakes with disappointing results.
I have my personal experience, new members of the team feel defensive when they receive advice from more experienced professionals, especially if it’s unsolicited. That’s the sign of damn EGO; you have to change it- try to leave your EGO outside of your workstation. And don’t forget to do the same at your social.
6. Learn to Say ‘NO’ at right time with right attitude.
Let go of what’s not working includes your personal life as well as Corporate. Learn to say ‘No’ so You Can Say ‘Yes’ to your Priorities. In order to maintain the balance in your life sometimes you have to say “no” and say it without guilt. Look it in this way; today many companies are expecting their employees (from Interns to managing partners) to do more work in less time and we do because we are eager for everything but you should not forget time is limited so sometimes saying ‘No’ can be an asset to your personal growth.
6. Stop Saying “I”.
The Ego hides behind the “I” and “me” in those declarative thoughts and statements about our identity so stop saying “I”. This “I”, works like sweet poison for you and it kills your social engagements. Let me put this in another way; imagine one of your team members keeps saying “I want XYZ to be done now” how do you feel?
Actually, this (“I want”) is a phrase that no one wants to hear at your workstation. Please keep in mind before using this “I” that everyone at your workstation is having their own expertise and they all are there to work together so use words like “We” and “us” instead of “I” and “me”. Try it you will notice the positive change and all your team members will love you.
Let me conclude it with my personal experience –A few years back I got a pretty advice from one of my elder brother and of course, he is my teacher; he said-
“You should think your life like a sapling (young tree). It is worthy to trim the tree. Our neighbors with attractive-looking front yards have their trees trimmed and clipped regularly. In the same way, your life must be trimmed of unnecessary activities. It would help you to focus on your goal and get success in your life.” –Sunil Kumar (Associate Professor, Department of Physics, Bansal Tutorials)
That time I didn’t understand it properly but now it means a lot to me.